失败与打击

不知道该如何开头才好， 不如直接进入正题吧！从我们一出世那一刻开始，每一天，每一分，每一苗我们都在学习。每一个人的学习能力都不一样。有的学得快；有的学得慢；有的一学既会；有的画了比别人唱了三四倍的时间才学会。在学习的过程中，一位学者最害怕遇到的并不是失败，二是因为学得慢而被别人看低。被轻视在街上没有任何人的支持与鼓励才是打击学者的罪非祸首。一位学者在遇到失败时，最不希望别人听到别人说“你真是差，差到不得了，你不用再学了。。。”听了这些话，该学者定会感到很自卑。其实，不比你来告诉他，他也知道自己差，但就因为觉得自己差，所以他才要利用更多的时间来练习，并从中找出自己的错误并加以纠正。但是，如果你一句“你不用再学了”，原本还保留着五十分信心的他就立刻又放弃的念头了。他可能会想到："别人这么说肯定是人为我无药可救了，如果我在学下去，指挥麻烦到别人，。。。。。

怕怕

actually is somethins that happens yesterday....Yesterday, when i was taking my dinner with my dad, then suddenly there's a phone call to my dad...my dad conversation with the phone caller had钩起my interest and my dad told me this after he put down his phone.... "recently, almost every morning my dad need to go to xxx bank because the bank manager keep complaning about no water going into the bank's tangki. The manager suspected is the pipe problem so my dad as a house renovater was asked to go and have a check on the pipe....after checking for so many times, my dad didn't find out any problem with the pipe but when my dad came out from the bank, water will start to flom as usual...in the evening, water will stop flowing even though no people had closed the main pipe...this situatioin continues everyday and it almost become a routine.... so, in the end do you know what is the reason that causes the water stop flowing?".......i think you all roughly know what it is already... " yea, just like whay you guess, there's a ?? in the bank. ?? is the one who turn off the main pipe every evening and turn it one again every morning...it sounds scary right?this is not something that i create to frighten you all but to tell you ?? really exist... I GOT PROOF... the chinese bank manager has 阴阳眼. He saw ?? before. The security guard had seen ?? in the bank too...My dad, although don't have those special eyes but he could feel it when he and the bank manager went to check the pipe...my dad said you will suddenly feel very cold and the wind blow strongly ( even though all the windows and doors are closed tighly) when ?? is around you....my dad so brave right...i think so la....i ask him "you are not scare?" he said "if you never do something bad to others like murdering, etc..., then ?? won't disturb you...."..... ok, that's all my story...actually got one more story, but lazy to type...english not good ma...

批评

一直以来，我都不爱批评别人，因为我觉得我没有资格这么做。这个世界上是没有完美无缺的人。在我们批评别人的缺点当儿，我很肯定的，同时也有别人在批评自己。当别人批评自己，我会觉得很不爽。既然我知道被批评的人会觉得很不爽，那我为何还要批评别人以至他感到很不爽呢？正所谓己所不欲，勿施于人。再说，批评别人就好像在破坏别人的名誉。我总觉得无论如何都不应该破坏别人的名誉。就算那人有多么的坏，我们心里知道就好。如果他的缺点会危害到他人，最多我会要求身边的人小心提防他，而不是到处宣扬他的缺点。

还有一些事是我最近才发现到的，可能是因为我太单纯才会有这样的得想法。我有一位朋友，人人都认为他很爱钱， 因为每一次她开口讲话，他一定会提到他以后的路要怎么走。他会告诉别人拿到成绩后，他打算要读哪一个科目而她选的哪一个科目的原因是因为毕业后他所入的那一行业薪水高。就因为他常常提到钱及薪水这类的东西，所以身边的朋友都认为他很爱钱。但对我而言，这并不是爱钱，而是在为未来作打算。我觉得这是个好现象， 而且为未来作打算并没有错
啊！我是这样判断的，但我身边的朋友都不是这样想。而且，就因为一位朋友这样说，其他的朋友都跟着认同了，还常常特地拿他爱钱的性格来玩弄他。更令我看不顺眼的事，他自己本省既然也承认自己是个很爱钱的人， 但我总觉得它是因为懒得为自己辩驳而承认的。

HAIZ....不知道啦。可能是我判断错了。反正不是什么重要的事，还是不要想那么多。

要接受一段感情前，必须要慎重的想过才行

刚刚看完了表姐的blog，我非常认同她所说的一切。我也和他一样，不明白为什么身边的人总是爱把感情当游戏...真的有那么简单吗？一个你曾经在乎得很的人，突然间就因为分手了，所以不必再理会他，不必再理解他的感受，不必再天天船短训给他，不必再关心他，这一切一切突然间的改变，难道可以那么容易地在短短的一两个星期内完全接受到吗？我是肯定做不到的。

“要接受一段感情前，必须要慎重的想过才行”。这句话讲得真没错。一旦感情破裂，不只自己本身会伤心，就连对方也会感到伤心，痛苦。每个人需要的时间来真正接受感情破裂的事实都不一样，万一对方永远都接受不了这个事实，也为了要得到你而不择手段，那该怎么办？或者是，对方因为想不开而自杀，那你岂不是害死了一条人命？如果你一直以来都在玩弄别人的感情，那你会不会因为当初自己不顾后果的所作所为而感到内疚不已？

总而言之，还是那一句，在接受一段感情前，先想想后果。除此之外，我们也该想想自己为何要谈恋爱，想想谈恋爱的对象要是个怎样的人，免得接受了别人的情意后才发觉到其实它并不是你的心仪对象。谈恋爱的滋味的却很甜蜜，但是要维持一段恋情并不简单。

eeeiilLL.....yuckky....

OMG ! WHAT'S THAT ??? that's the view of my house window after being attacked by TERMITES ... i'm the one who found it... so disgusting .... eiillll !!! there's so many termites "running" on it... they will never stop until "BAYGON" appears....

confuse...

Different people will have different view on an event that happen...people who always think positively will always have good view on an event...people who always think negatively will always have bad view on an event...but there is also another kind of person who can see things from different dimensions...i think most of us is the third kind of person including me... in my opinion, can see things from different views is good because we can understand others feeling better ...BUT ...sometimes it make us confuse...

for example : there is a conflict happen among your neighbours...you want to know about the reason that causes the conflict to happen as you think as a neighbour, you should ambil berat them and try to solve the conflict ...BUT ...before you ask your neighbour about it, will you think about this ? -- will they say i'm a busybody person? i just want to ambil berat them...but what will they think about me?

Do you know how to judge people?

Do you know how to judge people? do you judge people correctly all the time?i dunno...for me, i always judge people wrongly... someone that i think is good and nice in the end i will find out he/she is bad...someone that i think is bad but in the end i will find out he/she is actually quite nice...i think it is quite dangerous if we cannot judge people correctly.... someone may approach us just to make us fall but we might not aware of them just because we thought they are sincere to us.....someone may try to help us but we refuse to accept their assistance just because we thought that they are evil and they are trying to harm us....in the end, we are actually giving more opportunities for those who want us to fail to harm us...can you understand what i mean?so, you think it is dangerous right?we might be in trouble but we can't sense it completely... can understand right?

creative WORLD....

haha! do you know what is that?haha! i mean the one with cylinder shape...it's actually tape rolls that my friends and i had finished using....of course the tape is not that thick...i think there's no such thick tape in this world...even though there is, i don't think no one will know how to use it....

it is actually made up off twenty plus 2.5 cm high tape roll....haha! it is tall right...even taller than me...i think there is about half meter long....maybe you can't see it too clearly in the picture...but if the cylinder is right in front of you, you will feel that it is really tall....i dunoe how my friends and i can get this idea...we just gather those tape rolls and we make them into this shape with such height just because we think it is fun to see getting higher and higher & the most important thing, it is not falling....

Another product manufactured by my friends and i ... actually we want to do twin towers but due to lack of ingredients...twin tower becomes single tower....

just like the cylinder, it is made of tape rolls too...i mean the boday part...the toppest part is actually a MILO paper cup filled with cloth...the stick like thing is actually pencel...we are so creative and innovative right?and we pratice 3R...that's what school teacher taught us...u know what is 3R ? REUSE, RECYLCLE AND RE... ( at least i remember two ) .sure school teacher bery proud of us... we are nature lover... we love the Earth .....hehe... ( you can neglect these words cz i am sort of crazy for a few minutes BUT don't neglect the photo, i put it here just to show you all )

might have more product come out tomorrow...

i think there's about two weeks i work at Kawa Sejati enterprise ...actually it's a photocopy shop...The first day i worked, i'm not really very used to it...there's a thirty plus woman who likes to quarrell...i don't like to quarrel and i hate to listen people quarreling...but after i worked there for two weeks, everything is ok already...i'm used to it already but it doesn't mean that i like the woman...i think she is rude and she likes to talk @#$%^&....i never heard her talking @#$%^& but she herself told me about that...she thinks can talk @#$%^& is something very proud of and she is kind of showing off to me... i feel like slapping her when she is showing her "talent " but eventually i remain quiet...

I think i can just easily get used to a new surrounding.... i don't really feel uncomfortable when i work at a new place and i can just talk to everyone even though i dunoe them or just know them...maybe i am not too...and maybe it's just that all my workmates are affable and easy to get along with people...i'm not very sure about it but so far, i seldom have problem to get along with people around me..

already worked at kawa sejati for two weeks, i thought that 2 more weeks, i have to stop working already... but somehow, today, boss told me that my service will end on this saturday...i was shocked...and at that moment, i keep asking myself, izzit because i keep doing something wrong, that's why i'm being asked to stop working so fast, not even full one month...however, boss told me that it is because there's nothing much to do right now and he doesn't need so many workers already...of course...he doesn't know i'm sad...after knowing about the bad news, i didn't talk until after my lunch time...i think no one know that i am sad because i hide my feeling...i keep thinking about the reason i'm being asked to stop working...i can find out a few of them: 1) i can only work until end of february, not like others, they can at least work until Mei. 2) i am the newest worker there. 3) the reason that i am employed is there are many works to do and they are busy meeting the dateline, so now seems there're less thing to do, so i'm asked to stop...only three reasons that i can think of...

although i am sad and dissapointed, but i appriciate kawa sejati boss for employing me...

Am i useless??? OF COURSE not Not Not !!!

Today working keep doing something wrong...when i stapled the book, i use the wrong size of "bullets"...after finish removing the paint on the book cover, i forget to throw away the cotton stick ( actually i dunno that i need to throw them away because i didn't see anyone throwing)...while taping the book, i use the wrong technique and that's why i only can tap one book while other already tapped three books....doing so many things wrongly, feel like i'm so useless...feel like i'm loser...i'm sad but that feeling only lasts for a few minutes...after that, i told myself i must change...i will become a better person...if wrong for this time, next time don't do it anymore...take it as a lesson...everyone will do mistake...in addition, IF WE NEVER DO WRONG, WE WILL NEVER BE BETTER...when we see out mistake then only we can change to become a better person....

yesterday i enjoy eating big apple dougnut....hehe!

Hehe!!! BIG APPLE doughnut...are they look delicious.??? hehe1 SURE RIGHT? hehe ! but one of it already missing...i had eaten it before i took photo of them...i am extremely happy and delighful when i eat big apple doughnut this time...not because those doughnut are bought by someone i love ( actually don't have any interested person right now but i love my best friends and family members so much ) reminder : yesterday is valentine day... kk..continue my story...i am very happy because i bought the doughnut with my own money...money that i earn by working part-time job...i feel satisfy...i earn the money by myself...i used it to buy something i like...i share something i like with others...there's a feeling of contentment...i feel like i am independent right now... no need to depend on others anymore...no need to ask for pocket money from parents...i can even buy something they like for them...

Although my salary is not high, i think it is worth do use the money to buy something that can bring happiness to others and myself...i feel happy to see them happy...i seldom have the feeling to buy something very espensive...so i think even after i spent the money to buy things that i like, i'll still have much money...i know how to control myself...i think that is my 优点. In addition, after knowing how to earn money, we must know how to spend it too...GOT IN NO OUT ... NOT good .... OUT MORE THAN IN ... not good too... IN MORE THAN OUT , ahh...good goood goooood!!! that's why people always say WE MUST ALWAYS HAVE SELF LIMITATION & SELF-CONTROL...

EARINGS THAT I BOUGHT WITH MY OWN MONEY TOO...
3 FOR RM 10 only...the star earings is my cousin buy for mo one ...

terrible driving experience...++ weakness

just finish fetching my bro from tuition class at air putih...i drive ..n.. i 'm quite dissapointed by my own technique of driving. I seems like someone who had just started their driving lesson..In fact, i had already get my license...i couldn't control the car properly...when i was trying to drive out from the T junction, i went to the wrong way...it is actually against the rules...i had already passed my undang test, how come i seems like know nothing about it??why??i 'm sad..i'm really dissapointed...i want to drive so much but i am not well-preapared yet to drive safely on road...whenever there's an emergency case occurs, i won't be able to react fast upon it...i am not panic but my brain will just stop functioning for a few seconds and then only it will start to analyse the situation and produce a suitable respond...however, when the time i start to react, i know for sure it will be too late already...I'm not panic...REALLY ...i 'm not panic..i'm just a bit SLOW in REACTION...i don't know why i can be so slow in responding towards "stimuli" but i think that is my weakness...weakness that seldom people realised including me myself...i never know this is my weakness till when i start to work part time...during school days i never thought that this will be my weakness...i thik it is quite serious and dangerous to have this weakness...i can easily get into trouble if i couldn't react fast enough towards sudden happen cases...YEA..i 'm sad to know that i have this weakness but i won't let this weakness overpowered me and i will try to reduce the harm that this weakness will bring to me...i will do it...i sure can...i SURE CAANNN!! GAMBATEH!!!

do you know what is POLENTA & RISOTTO???

Risotto is a rich and creamy, traditional Italian rice dish. It is one of the most common ways of cooking rice in Italy.

Its origins are in North Italy, specifically Eastern Piedmont, Western Lombardy, and the Veneto (where Vialone Nano comes from), where rice paddies are abundant. It is one of the pillars of Milanese cuisine. As far as Italians are concerned, to be correctly described as a Risotto a dish needs to be made following the established process described below; otherwise the dish is a rice dish, but cannot correctly be called a risotto.

Polenta is a dish made from boiled cornmeal. Although the word is borrowed into English from Italian, the dish (under various names) is popular in Italian.it is a traditional staple food throughout much of Northern italy.

regret for not joining AFS.... but

haiz...haiz...haiz... i am regret for not applying AFS...i really like travelling...got four of my friends went for it and just now i just view their photos...they seems like enjoy the trip so much...they can just easily get along with their new classmates and their hosthome family members...i am sure they have no communication problem with them...all of them are smilling in every photos that they took...i'm so envy on them... if i decided to apply that day then what a nice holidays that i will have right now ( if i passed the interview )... BUT... i think i will have problem communicate with those people... and i think i will feel very uneasy when i am there because sometimes i will feel like want to be alone and refuse to talk to anyone...in additioin, the expenditure there is very expensive...how can my family afford it???

unhappy moment...

i just finish taking my driving test...i got so many things to complain about....the car is too old dy.... the handbreak is so hard to be lifted....the 油门is so difficult to be controlled.... usually when i slightly pressed it, the car will move a little bit... but the car that i drove during test is totally different...i pressed it slightly, the car will dash to the front already...then i seems like 'riding horse'...the car keep choking... it was always unstable... i don't like to drive that car... i don't like the people there...their working presentation is very uneffective... they let all the candidates wait for their turns to take test for a long time...while we were waiting nervously for our turn to take our test, they sit there and relax...some of them even take their time to enjoy their cigarettes....they are so MENGADA-NGADA...

so SO SO SO ANGRY

Yesterday one of my father's customer went to the photocopy shop that i work at...he is so rude...he told something bad about my dad in front of me and the worst, in front my dad... he insult my dad...he merosakkan my dad reputation...i am so angry.... he is the one who wrong, NOT MY DAD .... but he tolf something different in front of my bos .... he is so evil .... he is a well-educated person... he shouldn't do such kind of things... he should become the role model of others...BUT, he had done something that is so opposite from the characteristics that someone who have the same occupation with him...

GIVE AND TAKE

just finish reading ah mae'S blog.....now only i realised she was sad during chinese new year.....2nd of feb was her birthday....many of her friends rmb about her birthday and most of them had sent msg to her ..... but she was dissapointed because non of her friends celebrate her birthday.... she expects her friends to find out some time to celebrate with her but no one did so because everyone was busy working....i am sort of sad too when i read it because i am one of her friends....she is easily get hurt but she is a very understanding person.....she understand that all of us is busy until we can't have time to celebrate her birthday.... i think she won't feel angry but i hope we as her friends won' t dissapoint her for the second time.....i also don't want to be dissapointed, so i shouldn't dissapoint others especially someone that i care for.... so, starting frim now, i will treat everyone that i care for better and more sincerely... ( WE SHOULD SHOW LOVE AND CARE TO OTHERS BECAUSE THEY ARE JUST SAME LIKE US, NEED LOVE FROM OTHERS)

对于婚姻错误的观念

我们不能强逼婚姻一定是爱情最纯粹的结晶品，然而面对人生如此重大的选择，一念之差也许会让你追悔一生，所以男女之间选择伴侣要擦亮眼睛，掌握黄金守则，千万不要犯错误！

1。 无为结婚而结婚

2。 为了逃离家庭而结婚
这是女孩子普通会犯下的错误。为了脱粒不快乐的家， 或则逃避管束，向往自由，女孩子多数会借结婚来达到目的地。其实，这根本是一种虚幻式的假独立。

3。 奉儿女之命
你会感到惊讶， 尽管避孕这么方便，这样的老故事发生的频率依然很高。尽管新时代的版本稍有不同， 女性在胁迫南方结婚之时，虽然表示她勇于作未婚妈妈，不过仍是新瓶换旧酒。只怕想要套牵别人的心， 自己也被套牵了。

4。 为了违抗父母之命
不管是父母认为子女太年轻也好，还是认为子女选者的伴侣不适当，都可能赢强烈的逆反心理。尤其是具有逆叛性格的当事人，往往会为了反抗而反抗。不过，要提醒你的是，这却可能是反抗父母主张最危险最糟糕的一次。

5。 只为了他是帅哥
俊男美女人人都爱，美貌的威力所向披靡。只是出了美貌，其他必备条件都忽略了，可就成了大悲剧，而且，别忘了外貌的折旧率很高哦!

6。 为了欲望
信不信由你， 男性更容易成为欲望的受害者。男人常常取得并非心目中的最爱，而是用欲望来牵制他们的女人。

7。 因为我寂寞
现代人天不怕，地不怕，就是怕寂寞。男人女人就这样因为寂寞而纠缠下去了。宁愿争吵大杀，也绝胜过孤单一人。

8。 寻求安全感
安全感这东西，除了自己给自己，别人是给不了的。想想看，原来情愿给你依靠的肩膀，又不情愿了，你怎么办？

9。 摆脱单身
许多女人还是不相信晚婚与不婚都可以是一种成熟的选择。生理时钟的催促，社会压力，惧作高龄产妇等因素，都会让人为了打破单身情况而结婚。最荒谬的是，有者认为即使结婚一星期就离婚，也非得结一次婚不可。

10。 想当新娘

11。 恋爱必须结婚

12。 因为年龄

看清五道问题，你适合婚姻吗？

看清五道问题，你适合婚姻吗？

1. 你们有共同的生活目标吗？

结婚后你们将会永远在一起，那是一段很长的时间。你们计划如何过这段时间呢？一起吃饭，跑步？你们必须分向更深更有意义的事情，你们必须有共同的生活目标。
在一个婚姻里有两种情形会发生：你们可以一起成长，或者各自成长。百分之五十的人是各自成长德，要是的婚姻成功你必须知道在生活的底线上，你要的是什么，然后嫁（或娶）一个和你一样的人。

2. 和他分享感觉与思想时，觉得安全吗？

这个问题和你们的感情品质有关，“觉得安全”意思是你能开诚布公的和这个人沟通，良好的沟通基础是信任。对自己诚实点！确定你要结婚的对象是你在感情上觉得安全的。

3. 他是个值得敬佩，很特别的人吗？

这个问题的意思是：它是个高贵而敏感的人吗？你怎么测试他呢？
这里有些建议：他是否以一般的基础作为个人成长的方法？他是否认真地改善自己？有人对“好人”下了个定义，那就是某个力争上游并常做正确的事的人。所以问问你的另一半，他如何利用它的时间呢？
基本上这个世界有两种人：一种是致力于个人成长的人，另一种则是寻求舒适生活的人。那种讲舒适生活列为目标的人，会把个人的享受摆在第一位。在于他走上红地毯之前，你必须要知道这点。

4. 他如何对待其他人？

促进人际关系最重要的是给予的能力。所谓的给予，是使人快乐的能力。看看这个人是否很喜欢机遇。他对那些毫无关系的人是怎样的情形？例如：餐厅招待员，司机等等。他如何对待父母和兄弟姐妹？如果他对那些给他所有东西的人都不懂得感激，不要期望他会感激你。他会八卦并且说别人的坏话吗？会八卦的认识不懂的爱人的。你可以很确定如果他对别人不好，对你也不会好的。

5. 婚后是否改变这个人？

有太多人犯了这个错误，就是希望婚后“改变”他的配偶。你可以希望某人在婚后改变。。。。。。可能会变得更差，如果你不能完全接受他现在的样子，你就还没准备好要结婚。总结来说，恋爱阶段你要多用点头脑受用点心。

Appreciate

i am sad yesterday because i am asked to do something that i don' t really like. I don't want to cheat or tell lie no matter what lie it is. I express my feeling to my best friends. At that time they are working but when they know that i am sad, they immediately call me although they are not allow to do that actually. They are so worry about me. i never thought that they will have such reaction. i am touched by their reaction. I feel so lucky for having them as my best friend. I appreciate them. I will treat them as good as they treat me. 朋友，我珍惜你！

New working place

Today is my first day at KAWA SEJATI enterprise. It was so tiring. I am working all the time and i had no time to sit down even though i am given the permission to sit down. The most important thing is while i am working, i keep thinking about my workmates at Parkson. I miss them so much... It is fun to work together with them. ALthough i have not much thing to chat with them but we always bergurau senda. They are better than my workmates at Kawa Sejati. They like to quarrel out of some small matter. For them , that is fun but for me, it is very noisy and annoying. I don't like to listen people quarreling. I hate people quarel. Anyway, i hope that i can get used to it soon.